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Not More Than Important.

This week’s short "Note to Self" to keep your thinking on track…

Rules, goals, deadlines are not dire necessities.

Even so, people have a natural tendency to take important goals, rules, deadlines and believe that they absolutely must be met or upheld.

The distinction between dire necessity and importance is pivotal in terms of a person's emotional regulation.

When rules, goals, and deadlines become more than important, and are instead believed to be dire necessities they generate psychological struggle and challenge a person's ability to cope, master, and perform.

Sure, it's important for rules, goals, and deadlines to be viewed with enough gravity to facilitate results but too much force interrupts the psychological processes that will help a person succeed.

Think about it...

Written with a little help from Dr Albert Ellis' seminal text "Reason and Emotion in Psychotherapy".

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