Why is it so hard for people to recognise their role in the creation of their stress? Since stress became a thing and part of a way of being for so many us there has been a fundamental error in our understanding of the concept of stress.
What do we really mean when we talk about stress? Stress is not the thing that caused your stress nor is it your reaction to something that challenges you to change.
Stress is not your way of seeing the situation and how you choose to deal with it.
Stress is in fact a process which involves all of the above and so all of the above are critical in the effects that stress has.
The important, even critical, point is that sometimes some of the above components are not in our control. The only constantly accessible and controllable components are our way of seeing the situation and how we choose to cope with it.